What do I do next? Part 3

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I am also a perfectionist (anyone seeing a pattern?) but I am not controlling. The thing I learned recently in IC is that even though I didn't expect anything of W, ask about what she was doing or criticize her in any way, just being around a perfectionist is a huge pain in the a$$.

If you're with someone who is constantly pushing themselves and commenting on things that aren't to their liking, it doesn't take much to assume they're thinking the same about you (even if they're not), and to feel inadequate by comparison.

People like people who make them feel good about themselves. If you're constantly outshined, you're not going to feel good, and eventually you're going to want to escape that situation, no matter how "nice" or good your spouse is.

One learning is to be more vulnerable with your spouse, let them know about your shortcomings, let them help you instead of you always helping them. Slow down on what you're trying to accomplish when they're around. Think about how you effect them, even if you think it's irrational.

That's my recent epiphany anyway...

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