Wife of 6-Years is Divorcing Me pt. 6

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- My wife was the one who suggested this need for itineraries when we started taking our son out of state during the separation, so I'm basically doing what she wants.

Alamo, I understand where you are coming from, but going back and forth on these types of things with your W has to get old. You probably have an idea what airport they are flying out of and what airport they are flying into. Not that difficult to figure out their itinerary.

- I don't trust that her family will call me right away if something did happened to my wife and son on the flight(s). Her family and I have zero relationship, so I doubt they care.

Anyone with half a heart and half a brain would call you. After all, we are talking about your S.

Didn't my wife want a divorce? Divorce, especially with children involved, is all about schedules and structure, right? Add my wife's history of self-entitlement and zero-to-low respect of me as a father and what do you have?

Doesn't matter how you cut it, when your W has your S, she is in control. When you have your S, you are in control. There will be things that she does when she has him that you will not agree with and vice versa. It cuts both ways Alamo.

In this calling schedule scenario, for example, if I were to respect her freedom and decision, wouldn't it just mean I'm allowing/enabling her to live in this fantasy world?

You don't have a choice. She left and filed for D. She doesn't care if you respect her freedom or decision. Perhaps if you respected her decision and let her go, things might change.

Wouldn't I also be seen as a doormat?

Only you decide if you are a doormat.

If it's for the benefit of our son, I want to stick to what's right for him (i.e. giving him structure and reliability), not what SHE thinks she wants/needs.

I agree, there should be some structure, but again your W will do it her way when she has your S.

What are your plans for Christmas while your S is gone? Do you have anything planned?