25 & WHG - Thanks again for your valuable words and thoughts! I agree with both of you about my stubbornness in wanting the flight itinerary from my wife. I do have my reasons for doing so, namely:
- My wife was the one who suggested this need for itineraries when we started taking our son out of state during the separation, so I'm basically doing what she wants. - I don't trust that her family will call me right away if something did happened to my wife and son on the flight(s). Her family and I have zero relationship, so I doubt they care.
Sorry, WHG, I have to disagree with one of your points, unless I'm misunderstanding this entirely!
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Co-parenting is tough... it's about respecting the freedoms and decisions of the other. When she has your S she has the control.
Didn't my wife want a divorce? Divorce, especially with children involved, is all about schedules and structure, right? Add my wife's history of self-entitlement and zero-to-low respect of me as a father and what do you have?
I hope you understand part of what I'm doing is merely respecting her game, the divorce game (as much as I hate to). If she wanted nonchalant and informal child-raising, then she's not facing the reality of things.
In this calling schedule scenario, for example, if I were to respect her freedom and decision, wouldn't it just mean I'm allowing/enabling her to live in this fantasy world? Wouldn't I also be seen as a doormat?
If it's for the benefit of our son, I want to stick to what's right for him (i.e. giving him structure and reliability), not what SHE thinks she wants/needs.
