did you play ANY role in the demise of your marriage? Yes. I gained weight and had trouble keeping up with the housework after I had 2 kids 15 months apart.
That's not digging deep enough Lydia. Neither of those things is unusual, nor entirely within your control. If that's IT, then H sounds like an ignorant jerk. But you still had a role - was there good effective communication about housework, negotiation of acceptable comprises and alternative solutions, loving discussion of attraction/physical appearance? I'm not saying I did any of these things either but I'm also in this same boat here and am learning that I was passive aggressive, resentful, and almost willfully not doing things my H wanted - and he wasn't doing what I needed either because I wasn't communicating my needs to him well either. Look deeper than the surface to see if there's more answer to that question.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
