This strikes a very significant chord with me, as I now can freely admit that I am a perfectionist (and slighty OCD) and it more than likely contributed to the decline of my M. The sad part is - you never really THINK you're being damaging - rather, I awlays thought I was acting in the best interests of my W and S. What I didn't see was a clear "I know best" attitude that probably stabbed at my wife like a dull pin. Paired with my height and loud voice (see my previous thread) I can see how my tendencies were taken poorly.
I am mad at myself because I never acted out of a lack of love. Quite the opposite, really - I just didn't know the terrible result it was causing - or just wasn't able to see it.
It is very hard to change this behavior because 1.) It's been going on a long time, and 2.) Life rarely affords me an opportunity to show my W that I am letting go of this part of my personality.
