Unfortunately, because I am a fixer and a planner, going into a situation without a plan and just "winging it" goes against who I am and is very difficult for me.
People like you and I are often thought of as being perfectionists. You may not see yourself as one, but your family may. If you make those around you miserable with your steps, schedules, and plans, and/or worse....when your plan doesn't work, then they will dread everything that includes you. You will be, sooner or later, avoided by your friends & family.
Being a fixer is an excuse. We all are fixers by some degree. These things you've described in the previous post is or shouldn't be something to be proud about. It is something you need to change! Hard? Probably. It was for me. But if you care how your loved ones feel, you'll find a way to stop with your little steps and going from A to B, and learn that some things just don't have the steps and can't be given a time frame. Some things we have to learn to go with the flow. Helps us to be more relaxed, too.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
