I hope all is well with you. For the LBS, this process is so difficult. In my case, my W told me she wants/wanted a D. She has/had an idealized version of how D works: get it done quickly. She met with a L and told him that there was nothing to fight about. Then she talked to me and her ideas about what was fair and mine were not the same. She got upset and accused me of wanting to make things difficult. I told her that I only wanted equal access to the kids and if we could not agree on that then we would not be able to settle and the case would have to go to trial. She got frustrated because she said her L told her it would take one year to get a trial date. In short: the way she thought a D would work (quick and easy) is not the way it will work unless she agrees to make concessions that she does not want to make. She is also angry and frustrated because I have made a series of changes that she has been asking me to make. She has asked me "why did it take you so long?"
As several wise posters have written, the breakdown of the M did not take place overnight, so the rebuilding will not take place over night. Work hard on your 180s and GAL. Be patient. Fight for your M. Good luck.
