In regard to your over-thinking: I would really suggest the book "Women Who Think Too Much" by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema. It's more geared toward women because they do it statistically more often, but it seems to me that plenty of men do it, too, including myself. It may give you a lot of insight and allow you to cut out that kind of thinking when it only hurts you.
In regard to "It's over": I've read through every story in the "Another Divorce Busted!" section, and I've heard of many more on the boards. It seems like in almost all of them, the WAS said something like "I don't love you anymore" or "It's over." Yet things eventually changed and the couple reconciled....
I get the reactions of your friends and family. In this culture, we're geared to think that D is the final step. Holding onto hope is "pathetic" or "unhealthy." But then again, none of them know about DB, do they?
