Since the S I have begun to excavate the real me. While my emotions are all over the place, mentally I am feeling as good as I have in a while. (W even commented on liking my attitude and seeing me be more confident.) The thing I am having such a hard time with is the slow pace of the process and being patient. I want to ask my W if all the work I've done means anything at all. (I won't, of course. Although I did say recently that all her complaints about me are pre-S. She didn't say anything in response.) I understand that any physical contact is no where near being on the table at this point.
Great advice regarding disappointment! Absolutely correct. I am doing these things for me. You're also correct that I am doing many of the things I am doing for my W (whether she notices or not). Regarding my new work opportunity, I have said that it is for me and the betterment of our family. Should I drop any comment regarding the second part?
So, bottom line, knowing that she is angry and frustrated about how long it has taking me to make many of the changes that she has requested, is there anything other than continuing to make changes and GAL that I can be doing to enourage her to keep an open heart to the R/M and not bolt? (Remember she filed for D a few weeks ago and then withdrew the filing without telling me, and she still hasn't told me. I have no idea if anything I have been doing caused her to reconsider or if there is a "sinister" motive.) Thank you again.
