DU- thanks for responding to my post on your thread. I logically know that GAL would be the best step to take towards detaching and 'moving on'. Because of the kids, it makes certain activities (that I enjoy) a challenge to coordinate.... but enough excuses- I've got to do it for my mental and physical health!

advina- I'm sorry you're in this too frown I think we should start a new forum: DB while your spouse is deployed. could be a good way to connect with others who are dealing this very unusual batch of emotions: being a LBS AND worrying about their safety. Even though my H is only 31, I think he's having a MLC (partially) because he just keeps saying: "I need to find my happiness"
I have tried to ask my H not to sign Separation papers before he leaves. He's not completely against it, He really wants to get financial decisions and kids on paper... he thinks that I might try to take them away (which I never would!) I like your idea of 'letting the kids think we are a family a while longer' for their sake. Since they already have so much to stress about with their dad being gone- any legal steps would add to that stress.

Thanks for the support ladies!! I really need it smile


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12