My H too is overseas. He's been gone 10 days in August, then again over Thanksgiving, and again the week before Christmas, all gearing up to potentially a whole year over there. He wanted us to be legally separated before he left, but we put the brakes on that by working on making peace in the house. I think when things didn't seem so dire to him he didn't feel so motivated to get the legal wheels turning. Also I told him, for the kids, why not be separated by work - get the space and time you need - and then D later if you need to. Why D and then go overseas? Let the kids think our family's intact for a while longer. He has seemed to agree to do that.
He hasn't tried skyping with us yet, though he has looked up our college age former au pair who skyped with her mom and friends in her home country while she lived with us. So I know he's exploring skype. I'm hoping we can use it to keep in touch if he goes away for longer. For the 10-day trips he hasn't really communicated with me or the kids while gone. The bomb dropped in June, so all three trips have been a chance for a 180 where I didn't bug him and get upset that he didn't communicate with us. The time change probably makes it difficult anyway, though he could text or email.
I will read DestinyUnknown's threads too. My H is a contractor rather than military, which I think makes it more complicated. My H seems more WAH than MLC, though there's a touch of MLC he is very rational, consistent, determined, definitely NOT crazy like the MLC'ers in the MLC forum.
I'll keep you in my thoughts too, perseverance. Take Care!
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
