Hi Purgatory. Thank you for reading my posts. I want you to know that you are doing great. The most important thing ( that i have to keep in mind) is to GAL all the time. I know how hard it is to not focus your efforts on demonstrating changes to H or to not be around him for fear of losing him, but please GAL and do not make my mistake of pressuring H. When I GAL'd, i began to feel comfortable with me, I noticed changes in me - I felt better, I looked better, I interacted better with others. While my H was away for the first few months of his deployment, there was no contact with him for 4 months. When we did begin communicating via Skype, I was always calm and felt more comfortable than I ever had speaking with him and he did as well.
I encourage you to GAL; do fun things with the kids; do things to make YOU happy and that make YOU feel good about YOU.
The LBS in the MLC situations have a difficult job in facing their own demons and the reasons for the breakdown in the marriage itself.
I cannot tell you that it is not scary or difficult; but if you focus on yourself as everyone has said (and recently even re-introduced to me), you will begin to feel better about YOU. And hopefully, your H will see changes but the changes have to be lasting for YOU, not him. I made the mistake in bringing up the old issues from the past that is causing strife in our reconciliation.
Honey, I wish you the best. Be good to you and your kids; that kind of genuiness can benefit you.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
