I find that 2x4's can be harsh and depressing sometimes. We need to hear them but we also need guidance, help in figuring this out. I gathered a list of core values. I want you to look at TAD the man, not Tad the father, not Tad the XH but TAD THE MAN. Who is he and how does he wants to be perceived by the people he meets.
There you have it! If your personal core values list is still too long and bulky, chip away at it some more until you only have about 10 values on your list. Make that part of who you are and know that this is your code (or map) to your best life.
Once you know who you are and what you stand for, you'll be in a good place to make good, healthy decision for you/yourself. You will be able to set goals that fits into your life. If you are happy with the man you are, others will be drawn to your "joie de vivre".
