PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[2thepoint]

"W was cold and distant, literally could not spend more than 2 mins in the same room as me - I ended up going to the office to watch football to avoid any confrontation.

W came into the office - asking why I was locking myself away, I said every time I entered a room she disappeared so I thought she wanted her own time.

W said that it wasn't true - I didn't argue just asked if she would like to watch TV together - W's response "What's the point".

I asked her if there was something bothering her - W's response "No - and stormed off to bed"."

See, this is what I don't get. Your W seeks YOU out after you realize that the tension is running so damn high that you have no other choice but to leave the room she is in. It seems like something is missing. So, why did you really leave the room? because you were uncomfortable? How did you leave the room? In a huff?

I know you have a problem keeping your mouth shut. You've admitted as much in this post as well as others. So... if you are going to say something, why not make it meaningful AND truthful?

I mean, if you enter a room that your W is in and you are uncomfortable and leave and she pursues, why not just be honest in a non-threatening, non-pursuing way and tell her that you left because you feel tension in the air, you are upset, you wish there was someway you both could find a way to ease the tension some, etc.

See, when you tell her that you thought she wanted her own time, you are sort of making a judgement or mind-reading and that puts a burden on your W that likely provokes her.

Think about how that interaction might have gone differently if you had acted differently.

Why do you suppose she came to you to see why you were locking yourself away? If the tension was as thick as you imply, wouldn't she be thinking the same thing? What do you think are her motives and how might you be provoking those motives?

Just some things to think about...