Journaling. Well, heck, I must have learned SOMETHING over the past years. So what HAVE I learned?
Don't let myself get over-stressed, exhausted, or co-dependent. Get enough sleep. OK.
Make time for exercise and friends. OK, DID THAT LAST NIGHT (WATCHED THE GAME). WILL HIT THE GYM TODAY.
Don't over-react. The reason this sort of thing effected me as it did was because is because of a very similar past experience and because I didn't think I would measure up.
THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO TURN OUT THE SAME WAY.
Cool down. I probably have about the "correct" amount of stress about such things a day or two afterwards. Burying the stress is going to give my a heart attack unless I get the stress out somehow.
ONE WORD: EXERCISE
Assume W's intentions are good. Start any conversation from there. Then keep it very short. Don't defend how I feel. Don't expect a resolution right away, or an apology.
I REALLY DON'T THINK SHE IS EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO HER BOSS. BUT SHE DOESN'T PUT AN END TO THE CRAZY OVER THE TOP ATTENTION. I SUPPOSE THIS IS WHAT I NEED TO COMMINICATE.
Relax. Things usually aren't as bad as they seem at first.
DON'T YOU HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE TELL YOU TO JUST RELAX? I DON'T EVEN LIKE IT WHEN I'M TELLING *MYSELF* TO RELAX.
Consider other stressers. Winter? Holidays? Work? Kids?
CHECK, CHECK, AND CHECK.
IN SUMMARY W'S BOSS LAVISHES ATTENTION AND EXPENSIVE MEALS ON HER, SHE TOLERATES THIS, I GET PISSY, THAT HURTS OUR R.
