WHG: When last we heard from our action hero...

[workinghardguy]

I know... my W's been saying it for at least the last two, going on three now. If she really does move out we will have to tell the kids though... otherwise they'll get suspicious when they're living in a different house

I've stopped freaking out over it... if she does want to move the timeline up, ok. What's a couple weeks really. If she wants to move to the basement, ok... her choice. Though this morning while on the treadmill I looked around at the basement and thought to myself that I put it at a 30% chance she actually does it. There's a lot of picking up, cleaning, and rearranging that would have to happen. She knows not to ask me to help because I won't.

I could see us telling the kids, but her not actually moving downstairs, whatever. But at some point, which is rapidly approaching, she's going to have to poop or get off the pot. She's made it clear to me (and everyone else) that she's moving April 1. Ok... well, you best start getting on that then.

I've identified that my W has a pattern. She gets anxious about some aspect of this and gets all in a tizzy about it. We then sit down and have a convo about it, make some small decisions and then nothing happens. Like the D... a few weeks back she was all anxious. I sent her some proposals and ideas about asset division, the house, child custody... I actually expected some reply, some type of back and forth, but there was nothing. She's never even mentioned them again. Yesterday morning... "we need to set a date to tell the kids"... ok... and then yesterday morning and again last night, nothing.

Yesterday was ok... I was kind of a mess. Spent most of the day feeling like I let the kids down. That's my biggest weakness right now, feeling like I've failed them somehow. W worked until late so didn't have to see her much. I was wrapping gifts in the basement when she got home and then I went to bed as soon as I got done. Ironically we both went to bed at the same time and crawled into bed together.

This morning she's in mega-pullback mode. She gathered her makeup and hair stuff and relocated to the upstairs bathroom (I shower downstairs). Up until this point she's always gotten ready even while I showered. My gut tells me she got too close after I came back from being gone... things really were open those first three days... and it scared her so she's really pulling back. I'm just keeping on like I don't care. Didn't even tell her goodbye or I'm leaving this morning, just gave the kids hugs and kisses and walked out the door.