Major transition happening here. W is very emotional about seperation papers I sent her last week, and we are negotiating seperation details right now. Both her note and my note had very caring statements about broken hearts, always loving each other, cherishing our time together, and so on. Don't really know what it means.
Everyone I talk to tells me my W has made her choices, and that she needs to move down her path. I am told I need to cut her off and let her go. No more contact. We are currently seperating finances, changing credit cards, etc., so there will be very little financial contact after the formal legal seperation in January. Her life is a shambles, and she gets over the top emotional every time we talk. She is apparently about to get into a relationship with an old boyfriend of 25 years ago, with probably predicatable results.
I have been operating on the premise that my W is emotionally fragile and confused due to major depression and other issues. I have been trying to be as supportive as possible, making occasional contact to let her know someone is out here who cares about her. Do I just go dark and not contact her at all? Just let her go, and realize she is gone forever and move on? Or do I check in occassionaly because I am so amazingly concerned for her?
Do I even send a text that says "Merry Xmas"?
Hard place here.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
