Hey Purgatory, there's no doubt about it that your husband going to Afghanistan for a year really stinks! On a positive note I would take it as a compliment that your husband is not packing his bags right now and moving in with his friend. He must be noticing some changes in you which is why he is hesitating on moving.

I know that it seems like it will be impossible to DB via email and web cam, but I actually think it will work to your advantage. When communicating via email we have time to think about what we are going to say and how we are going to say it. It also gives us the opportunity to go back and edit what we wrote. Look at how many people meet and get married via online dating now a days. They are communicating mainly via email. I really think this will give you an opportunity to put your best foot forward and let your husband see that you are in fact changing.

It doesn't sound like you are getting off of this ride anytime soon (me either so don't feel bad) so we might as well get as comfortable as possible.

Hang in there!


M:(f) 35
W: 45
3 dogs and 2 cats
T: 9 years
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OW confirmed 12/23/11