I don't want to get your hopes up that things will work out."
If I had a nickel for every time I heard that said by my W, I wouldn't be rich, but I would have a ton of nickels. You don't have to pull back on the communication. I don't ask my W ANYTHING about M or R. I casually bring up if she is going or made appointments for IC and leave it at that. Right now at this stage I just listen and validate. I ask her stuff about neutral things like her job and our S. If she brings up something I will give her my undivided attention and talk about it with her. I make sure I look her in her eyes (using a look of confidence and smile when necessary), nod and give her feedback (most feedback is saying "I understand"). As for OM, maybe part of what she is getting has to do with communication.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
