Luv, I remember reading your research, too, and feeling disheartened. In "Not Just Friends," Shirley Glass maintains that when a W leaves, the M will be more likely to crumble and reconciliation will be more unlikely (based on her research).
However, in "After the Affair," Janis Spring notes that when a W has an A, the male LBS is far more likely to find someone else because he's typically more financially solvent and has more options available to him. So it's all in how you look at things.
I think Accuray's right, you're trying to get certainty in a situation filled with uncertainty. Once you learn to let go and allow whatever will be to be, a huge weight will come off of your shoulders. Who ever really knows what happens until it happens?
