W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

I'm not sure what it is that the other men are providing, I almost want to just say that to her. I will try to figure that out but I really don't know the men and its hard to figure out what my W is missing when the communication is so little.

My wife is back to somewhat stonewalling me again and now wishy washy on wanting to work on things. I asked her why she is selectively responded to texts and she said "Cause I don't know what to say. I don't want to get your hopes up that things will work out." I said back "Ok, now I'm so confused and lost. I thought you wanted to work on this or at least see. To do that we need to at least go to counseling, right? I got no response. This is all confusing to me and Iwas not even texting her stuff that was personal or about our relationship. I guess I will have to pull back on communication for a while.

I did setup a MC appointment for this Friday so we will see what she says to that. I'm really confused and trying to do what is right upon her request to wanting to go to MC.

I started to re-skim the pages of DR and like at my goals that I set when I first read it. Some of them happen like the communication opening and helping my W know the M is salvageable. The moving home goal was not hit but she has come to the house numerous times so I feel like I made progress on that. I will continue to work on things and get back to DBing. This roller coaster ride is one crazy experience and I hope through everyone's help I can have the strength to stay on it until it stops where I would like it to.