Did I do the right thing?

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I have changed quite a bit--in the past I would

In your situation, your X has overridden your feelings 3 times now and then shows up when he feels like it. I would call that abusive and cruel. Have you figured out why you would even consider going back to such a person?

I did a lot of work to figure out what drew me to my X. I'd be lying if I didn't admit that there is still some pull there. But I am standing taller and more proudly as I realize that I deserve better than his cheating and screaming and narcissism. I know that there are certain issues that I have that I needed to work on, and I see him as a real

So what if he listed you as his life insurance beneficiary? So what if he asks about your family? That's not a real sacrifice on his part. What he DOES is not worth it.

I guess with some of the cheaters, I am less sympathetic, particularly with serial cheating. I'm not saying don't forgive, but I am saying that it makes sense not to allow them to continue hurting you.

You can do it on your own and you don't need his ever-so-gracious minor guilt-ridden gestures.

And yeah, stay dark. Not for him, and not for trying to get him back, but because it is good for YOU. When you are ready to stop being dark, you may see him in a very different way.