Well, i spoke to h, he is completely stressed out and seems to be in deniel.. I can hear in his voice that he has no idea what he is doing or how everything is going to work out. I asked him to just reassure d that he will still see her. and to just talk to her.. she needs to hear it from him.
I made no mention of he and I or any of it, I am trying to jsut let sleeping dogs lay.. I know once he is moved to the new city and he has noone but himself to be around he will finally see this for what it is.. alone time can be a good thing for him.
I spoke to an attorney and there is no big advantage to filing if he keeps up on his financial agreement, and if he doesnt then we can cross that bridge when and if it happens... I had heard that the person who files wins.. there is no property to divide just debts and custody.
As for DBing, I feel like I am, I am detaching and trying to appear that I am moving on...it really doesnt seem to affect him...but it aint over til the fat lady sings!
m 41 h 44 d 17 (prev marriage) d 9 Never give up!!!!!
