What else could I have done?

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Antlers: You keep justifying bad behaviour. Your own behaviour towards ex MIL. Not OK>
I was explaining my feelings. Isn't that OK here? I felt is was important, to ME, that they know the truth. I've done nothing but take it square on the chin since D-day, and have not had an opportunity to tell anything other than how bad I was and how wrong I was. My exMIL put digs in against me whenever she could...my young son even told me that she said bad things about me to him whenever he used to go see her. It actually did me some good, I believe, for them to know something other than just what they've been told by my ex.

What your ex did is one thing but how you handle yourself NOW is different. And that is what Gineen and I are saying to you.
I feel good about the efforts I've put forth to try to save my marriage and my family. I did everything in my power to make things better for us all. I do appreciate your input, and input from anyone else here too.
YOU might feel better if you tell your ex inlaws "the truth". But what purpose can it possibly serve except to further distance you from it all. I do feel better about telling them the truth. It's about time that I felt good about something! The purpose that it served was that it made me feel better for reasons that have already been described. Further distance me from what? My exW who is now with a man that she had an affair with over 10 years ago while our children were small? My ex in-laws who are so happy that she's now with her soulmate? [/color
Do you really think you are the only one here who had a horrible divorce? Obviously you don't know much about mine although I have tried to tell you. And FLTC. And many many of the others here. [color:#FF0000]Heavens no! Why would you even think that? I don't know much about yours at all but I will read up on it. FLTC too. I just recently came back here, so I'm sure there are a lot of situations here that I'm not familiar with.

We're trying to help you. So try listening and stop "explaining" it to us. We know. And trust us - we're advising you correctly. I appreciate any help that I can get here. I do listen, and will listen more. I do think it's OK to vent here...at least I hope it is. Despite many similarites here in a lot of these situations, there are some individual circumstances that make them different also.