First of all, good for you, E. You deserve to have someone who realizes the kind of man you are.
I am not surprised about the relationship you now have with your children. I always say that as long as you do nothing to injure their relationship with the other parent and that you are honest and present, they will realize the truth.
Your beautiful daughter is at a difficult age. She needs her mom and there is not much you can do regarding that. But tossing the coin was a wonderful solution.
As far as your relationship with Ms. N. goes, there is nothing you can do to change your ages, nothing you can do about the fact that you have children and are divorced and so, she must work through it and decide if she can handle it.
I know you will continue to be your wonderful self. Give her the space she needs to figure out her feelings.
Take is slow, E. No rush, right? Let it all unfold as if will.
Enjoy your time with her and your time alone. And keep remembering that either way, you are ok.
