as Yoda would say....the force is strong in you...

[AntoniaB]

Thanks for the update--I am glad to hear things are going so well for you. I'm also glad for the XW insights.

I get the impression that my XH thinks I still want him back too or am waiting for him...I've told him this isn't the case, but he doesn't seem to believe me. I wonder if the exes tell themselves this because a lot of us do not get involved with someone exclusively for a long time; they can tell themselves "well despite what I did, my ex still is single, so there must be no one out there better than me."

There are times that I've temporarily wished to be with someone just so XH could not tell himself that I'm sitting here waiting or feeling sad. I GAL all over the place but the only type of GALing my XH "gets" is being in a relationship. In his world nothing else matters, where in my world, I have a million things going on that do matter that have nothing to do with a rel.

Anyway in the end, even if this is what they tell themselves, whatever. It's really of no consequence to us anymore.