WHG - I think we are on basically the same page. In moments of peaceful honest, my W would tell me she is intimidated to argue with me because she thinks I am good at it. I find that ironic considering how much I absolutely hate arguing. I think the lesson here for we taller gents with loud voices and passionate opinions is to closely monitor the physical positioning of our bodies and the volume and dynamics of our voices. I remember reading somewhere on this board or in DR to talk softly to your S. For me, that means I damn near have to whisper - but I see the importance. Non-verbal communication is also something I guess you can control if you are aware of it. I have done my best to not even approach the EDGE of an argument with my W these days. Given that Ls are involved right now I find it hard.
