Awesome 180, mnky! That's one of the most important things to do, because the clingy and needy of the LBS is the complete opposite of attractive.
You will find there is a lot of "script" the WAS will say, over time. "hope we can be friends" is certainly one of them, as is "I love you, but..." or "we married for the wrong reasons", etc...
It could be, for lack of any better words, our WASs use this language because they are trying to explain their feelings when even they may not know what their feelings are. And they are trying to keep the drama down and "play nice".
You indicate you are moving to an apartment. Why?
Moving out can be a bad move, legally. Get advice on that.
Also, understand that no matter what you do, your W will do what she wants. Space will not prevent her from doing things she will want to do. She will lash out if she's feeling pressure and that pressure may be feelings of uncomfortable if she thinks you are judging what she is doing or who she is hanging out with.
Again, more information would be great. Things like:
+ what are any complaints your W might have about you + are there any compliments about you + what other GAL or 180 could you do
Do not panic. These things generally take time. You have time to become a fantastic upgrade of yourself.
Set goals for yourself, stay focused on one or two changes at a time, be consistent with them for enough time so that if they are good changes, they stick and your W trusts them. Your W getting mad about a change does not make it a bad change, it could simply mean she's noticed and now she's mad because you made a positive change.
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