Yes Crimson, as rick mentions, great notice about how your size may be influencing how you come across.
Personally, I've always had a voracious appetite for knowledge. So when I am personally confident about a topic, I forget that others may not really want my input... if I say something that is contrary to what they believe (or perhaps I'm actually incorrect, but THINK I am share factual information), people sometimes think I'm trying to "make them wrong"... ie. I'm coming across as condescending...
And that is RARELY my intention...
So yes, my desire to share knowledge... or your size... is not a flaw... but when we are aware of these things, we can look at ways of changing...
This change needs to be done for us... not to get our spouses back, or so that more people "like" us... I'd guess not everyone likes the dahli llama, either...
Try some things out that you feel might provide positive, personal growth for yourself. If they feel "right", then keep them up. If they don't... then stop doing them...
