Well I have never talked to her DR before. Or anything like that becuase of her reaction. I try to allow her to do her things as much as possible. I try and push as lovingly as possible. But when she says things like this it makes me not really care all that much.
Quote: Well things seem to be ok for now. The last week has been pretty even. She is getting better from the flu. She has apperciated my taking care of her....It just seems that no matter what I do differently or the same though this is the same old marriage. Where I do this work and try to make things better and she doesn't do any of the changing. I will keep trying though and see where things finally take us.
Are you doing her LL's, also try listening to the audio WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW with her.
I think Poe's advice is pretty good. The Barb DeAngelis book, What women want men to know, is a good book. Most of the time, the problem is not what we say but how we say it and what we don't say.
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
I will check that out. I am trying to do her LL. Which as far as I can figure out is acts of service. So I have been trying to do more around the house and such.
Thought I would post here....This last saturday W and I went out with some of my friends to a club. We had a lot of fun. My W got really drunk and turned into that touchy feely W that I want. It was so much fun. She has started take her thyroid Meds again. I think she acutally has an appointment to see her DOC. . She is finally realizing that this medicine actually helps. I told her I think that she needs to have a bigger dose. Ellie by the way her first set of meds were 60 doses. If that helps. Her refills are 30 doses. Im guessing that she will need to be on the meds for a bit more before she sees a the DR so that her levels even out. We seem to be doing ok.
My W catogrizes our M as ok but not great. Kind of a 5 out of ten. Which I think is probably just about right. If only she could be that drunk person more of the time without the acholol<sp).
I have been trying to do more around that house I think that has helped but it still is not all the way there.
Well I haven't posted for a long time about my Sit. But here it is. For the last month I have been trying to change some of my attitude about the poor picked on me syndrome that I have been having regularly. I have refocused my efforts on finding my W LL languages. It looks like her LL is Words of Affrimation. Which I have been very dillegent with trying to do. When she says I Love you, instead of me saying DITTO, I say back I love you to. Or I will right her a text message just to say I love you. I have been trying to compliment her a lot more on the way she looks and the things that she puts into our R. It has seemed to help alot. She is starting to speak my LL a little more also giving much needed hugs and kisses. Even being intimate more often. Its not quit meeting my needs but hey its a very good step in the right direction. Im hoping that things to continue to grow and foster the good things that we are getting again.
It has seemed to help alot. She is starting to speak my LL a little more also giving much needed hugs and kisses. Even being intimate more often. Its not quit meeting my needs but hey its a very good step in the right direction. Im hoping that things to continue to grow and foster the good things that we are getting again.
Wonderful news! Remember that babysteps are still steps forward toward your goals.
The progress is slow but at least it is progress. It is very nice to see it. I need to become a master at words of affirmation. If I can learn to speak it as well as I speak my own LL I will be ahead of the game.
. She is finally realizing that this medicine actually helps. I told her I think that she needs to have a bigger dose. Ellie by the way her first set of meds were 60 doses. If that helps. Her refills are 30 doses. Im guessing that she will need to be on the meds for a bit more before she sees a the DR so that her levels even out. We seem to be doing ok.