Sounds a lot like my H. I try to have no expectations, and live in today. Of course that's made easier because my kids are adults but it's up to your H to come up with a plan to see his daughter.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss