I think removing yourself is a good thing. I read in one of the millions of things I've read since this started, that I could say something like, "I want to continue this later, right now I need to think about what's been said."
Have you read how to improve your marriage without talking about it? I get lots of opportunity to practice that since we don't talk. But the book makes lots of good points about fear, pain, shame and guilt and how those are the driving forces in marital discord.
Disentangle by Nancy Johnston is another one I keep going back to.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
But the book makes lots of good points about fear, pain, shame and guilt and how those are the driving forces in marital discord.
