Harrier, I think your concerns and KDs are about right. I could be wrong, but it sounds like from what you wrote that you wound ideally want to give it a little more time and/or come back under different circumstances.
I'm not saying it changes much, but We are in MC. So I don't totally agree with the roomates idea 100%. Plus there is this idea that my wife would say this is a huge effort on her part and shows she is working on things.
So the questions is from who's perspective is progress taken?
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.