So let's not call them "flaws", rather things that I could stand to improve upon. And, to your point - I never had any intention whatsoever of coming across as condescending - or anything else for that matter. I am just now realizing that that is how it is read - by my wife and apparently others. I've also gotten "arrogant" but at least that wasn't from my W.
Not to make excuses, but I think a lot of it has to do with my physical stature. I am about 6'5" and have a rather loud voice - though I do not try to be loud. My W would often say in arguments "do you know how you are coming off right now?!" - and I would basically say no or apologize. It is very difficult for me to be aware of my stature - since I know in my heart that I am not trying to project any negative feelings. Again, I guess it is something that I am going to have to work on.
25 - I am very glad to be getting this feedback. I would say it's too late, but in all honesty maybe I have been getting it all along and never had my head in a humbled enough place to say it is a problem. I am surely working to improve - for me - but also to set a better example for my son and hope that someday it will help bring my family back.
