Putting it back together, but SSM issues linger

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Accuray, this is totally huge!!! Your IC had an insight, wife agreed, and now W is going to go next time? That's great news.

My H agreed to go to counseling in January tonight...so I am also celebrating a bit (but he still hasn't said he'll give up his A...ugh)

Maybe you should hold tight until W gets into counseling and you get the IC's insights on what she is feeling. Maybe she is overreacting because of an issue she has (seems likely) but he may also have ideas on how to improve your interactions.

I feel like I can identify a bit with your W...and I did get annoyed with my H in the past when he was trying to lose weigh/work out. It created some sort of insecurity in me and I wonder if it was an underlying fear for my safety in the relationship. I think the key for me now is finding my own interests/goals so that I can be more confident in my achievements and celebrate H's success.

Still, I'm encouraged for you.