"I sent him a message a while later asking why he was so hateful to me, that i WOULD have loved him 4 ever, no matter what job he had, how much money he had or didnt have, or whatever mistakes he had made as a husband...We fight some more and I ask him if he can sleep at night. His answer ripped my heart out. "
Again, you have to stop these ILYs, 'why do you hate me' or 'what did I ever do to you' thingy's completely. Otherwise, as you found out you're going to spiral down into H's tunnel. When you do this H will push buttons and H knows 'exactly' which ones to push. Vent here, or with a trusted friend or C instead when you need too.
As we talked about, limit contact with H to only that which is necessary. Contact concerning necessary details with D and child. Keep it clinical and dry. Yes, you'll be cringing inside. You'll want to say this or that. Especially when H trys to bait you with some tantalizing argument material. Resist or you'll get burned more. Again, vent here or with a trusted friend or C when you need too instead.
I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...
