W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Ok Mr. Bond I'm done going back and forth with you. I will try to take what you have to say as objective advice but I ask that you realize that for one I probably will be touchy about things as this is a pretty messed up situation and most people are touchy lest you forgot how it was when you went through it. I will refrain from replying to other comments posted by you.

My W came over for dinner tonight but she seemed more reserved this time but we did share dinner and she said thank you. She also went to church with a friend today which is a 1st in a long time so I was pretty amazed by that. We played with our S for a little while and then she decided she needed to go. I did ask her about choosing a counselor before she left and she said she would decide between the 2 which tells me she really has not looked because I sent her 4. Not sure what to think about that but I will see if she emails me like she told me tonight. On the other hand she continues to text guys all day long especially 2-3 of them. I don't get why out of one side of her mouth she wants to work on things and comes over but on the other side she is almost exclusively texting guys all day long?(I know I shouldn't be checking phone records but she has been so wish washy that I guess I just don't trust her).

I know I shouldn't have expectations about my W stopping her affair(s) but I guess I thought if she approached me to work on the R that the EA's would stop . I told my W that I would save any questions or talk about our R for counseling so I will bite my tongue (very hard) but man it would be nice if this would stop. Well I will keep on keeping on.