So this weekend was a normal good weekend. My wife had to do some work today and I was watching the boys. However, during the day I had a financial situation (I'd rather not give the details) that arose. I called my wife to talk about it. It was very stressful to me. She said that she was on her way back.
When she gets back she says to me. "I was thinking on the way home and I think that you should move back in because of the financial stress it is causing." I was kinda shocked and she ask me how I felt about it. I agreed with the financial stress issue and agreed that it would help us get back on track. But I wasn't visibly overjoyed. She then said "I thought you be happy about this." I said something that I was, but I didn't want to feel she was only doing this because of financial pressures.
she said it wasn't only because of that. She said she thought the separation did it job of relieve stress and that we've learned a lot from it.
She also said that she would move into the spare room.
Okay, on one hand I am pleased because I really wanted to opportunity to move back in, but I wanted it to be because she wanted me back and not for other reasons.
However, part of me is just like no matter how it is happening, she did suggest I move back in. So just take that as a positive because I know there are situations where the W is willing to live with the financial stress.
Of course if I really evaluate it, she didn't have to offer this solution. Before she said it, it really wasn't on my mind as an option.
And then a small part of me wonders, if I can handle it. Then of course, getting use to living with another person also takes some time as well.
DBing, for me, was/is easier living apart. I mean it's easy to pine for something you can't have. then when you get it...you wonder if you really want it and/or are ready.
But I will at least have until the end of January. I have to give my landlord 30 days notice. Which I will probably do next week.
We leave Tuesday for a 7 day trip back home. (the home base of Dbing and MWD)
Thoughts?
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
