Hey Tad,

Merry Christmas sir. There is a point where you don't give a rat's

A$$ anymore what she is doing or not doing. I so totally get what

you are going through. I still fall sometimes and get caught off

guard and get sucked into the vortex. I have not dated at all

and it really does not bother me one bit. I just happened to

look at your signature with your divorce date of 10/21/2011 and

it made me think of when my divorce was final on 10/20/2011 which

of course is one day earlier than yours and marked the 20th

wedding anniversary of our wedding date 10/20/1990. Somebody

has a sense of humor on that one but getting back to you, I have

walked some of those steps that you are too. It is becoming more

and more clear that my XW is totally gone and not someone that

I could live with in the alien form she is in. This is not going

anywhere fast. It will take years and I will move on since it

is unhealthy for me to try to salvage what is not salvageable.

This board has helped me beyond any of my expectations and

the people here are the best. I guess what I am trying to say

is if you are anything like me, letting go was very difficult

but not impossible. I have kept busy with my sons and work so

dating is not something that I am in a great hurry for. The

craziness will continue as long as my sons are in co-parenting

ages and will last for at least the next 10 years.



My brother just moved into a new home he had built

in the mountains north of you. I may visit him this spring. If I

do, I probably would be around for a week or so and would not

mind buying you a beer. I know you are on the alt.

Hang in there sir and you have a right to be down now and then

but realize that it is up to you to get yourself out of the

down times. Holidays can be tough for the LBS, especially the

first few. But, like I tell my son, we are going to make the

future great. It is our choice to make it great.

WS