I was thinking what snodderly said and the she said it - it could be it wasn't from him, ow could have got it herself!
seeking, think about volunteering somewhere for a new tradition. Be a red bell ringer, help serve meals at a food bank. Take a trip somewhere warm and volunteer at a shelter. See life from someone elses perspective.
(((seeking)))
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
The last time I saw ex and ow, she also was sporting what looked like an engagement ring. The kids told me that they are not engaged though. No date planned for a wedding, nothing. I don't know if it is fake or what the deal is. They have to live the lie.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I know your friend probably meant well, but really could have kept that info to herself.
I stuggle with the knowledge that I know for the first 2-3 years, he is Mr. Christmas. Really puts thought into the gifts you get. He doesn't have a clue, but he tries! Then, the next thing you know, he is asking you to pick out your own gift. Then, when you say you just want him to give you something from the heart, he comes up with some last minute Christmas Eve B/S that no one in their right mind who knows you would give you. You simply stop being important enough to think about. And the rest of Christmas is on You!
Cadet is spot on. At some point, we have to stop surviving Christmas and start living it. It's just not going to be this year for me or you. Start working on next.
Snodderly, I will definitely hang in there. Thank you again for being here and for your wise counsel.
WCW, thank you, those are all good suggestions that I will take into consideration.
Trusting, these certainly are strange times.
Punkin, up until the time H left I never experienced a time where he didn't put a lot of thought into the gifts he gave me. He was romantic at other times of the year but it was in full force at Christmas time. I miss that and there is still some jealousy on my part that he has transferred that over to ow seemingly without even as much as a hiccup. It wasn't even about the gifts or money he spent, it was the feeling I got that he treasured me.
Since this thread is over 100 posts I'm going to ask for it to be locked.
I want to wish you all peace this holiday season. I am blessed to have your support and kindness. I'm forever grateful that I found this board and the wonderful folks who share and pay forward their stories and wisdom gained by walking their own paths.
