"Before she left, my W was the kindest, most loving person I have ever known. Only after she left did she become this seemingly hateful person who shows me little positive emotion. "
Ditto for my H. This is the part I find so hard to deal with.
"My W has never been real good with money by herself--I'm the only reason we even have a savings. I would hate to see how far in debt she really is."
Ditto again, only our finances are still entwined so the debt is shared. Makes trying to DB so hard when debt issues surface over and over again.
I have found my H doesn't respond well when I pull back. He seems much better in his interactions with me when I am friendly, attentive, happy and 'up'. When I go quiet-ish and minimise my interactions with him, he seems to go into a retaliatory spiral. Just wondering if you have found anything similar with your W?
