DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

I really dont like what this has turned into...i dont want S14 to see his parents acting this way, not able to have a conversation...not able to even look at each other, but i dont know how to get this to a better point..
H is in attack mode at even a simple request..he has consistantly not contacted me on time frames of when he will pick up and drop off S14, (he will text S14 and say on my way, but the time is never the same and he doesnt let ME know) i finally sent a text and ver nicely asked could you please let me know the time you will be picking S14 up and not just S14?..his response was "yes, mom"...he knows that statement would be hurtfull..its been a jab of his..that i mothered him.
How can i communicate with that..im not going to get on his level so its gone to no communication at all..
And now the meeting with lawyer tomorrow...i feel horrible that we will be signing papers and it will end in this way..with both of us so angry and defensive...but i dont know how to fix it..
I think i said that i spoke to the co parenting C after i walked out last week, i felt i owed her an apology, she told me H made next appt for tues...i was shocked he STILL wants to continue, and told her i would no longer be going. It seems pointless since H is following nothing that is suggested. I feel like i just ned to go dark and leave it at that, but i know my S14 hates that..i dont know what to do...