Bea, I'll share my thoughts w/you. I've spoken to quite a few divorced individuals (non-mlcers) about the prospects of remarriage and they have told me that they are very cautious to the second time around as they did not want to have the same thing happen again. They put a lot of thought into their divorces and worked to separate property, etc., w/the lbs. True, some got ugly, but for the most part, they didn't act out like ours did. In fact, several of the men told me that they had never seen anything like what happened.
Some may have invested in the marriage, but I bet it wasn't like the investments that we made...mlc is just the craziest thing and until you've walked our path, no one will ever understand it completely and why we have such a difficult time w/separation/divorce.
BTW, Frank Pittman is right on the money. I've read his books and he's very good.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
