You know, I still believe that my xh did invest a lot in the marriage. I have wonderful thoughtful gifts, and wonderful memories and my children also cherish memories of a father who was loving and kind. So perhaps not as much investment, but a lot.
What I was thinking is - if you were really unhappy with your marriage you would not expect to find happiness in re-marriage would you? The people I know who have been unhappy in their marriage have been very very cautious about any new relationship . . . Perhaps the truth, as Frank Pittman suggests, is that people do not leave unhappy marriages for someone else. that act requires some optimism that marriage/relatonships delivers happiness.
