Bea, It's not strange at all. Mlcers can't stand to be w/us, but yet, they can't be alone...so they hook up w/the op and then in most instances, marry them. If they lived alone, they would have to focus on what ails them and they can't or won't do that.
Are they truly happy now? I would venture to say that most of them have accepted their fate and will live out their lives in the situation that they got themselves into when they ran away. Will they ever admit their mistakes? I seriously doubt it.
Bea, we invested our entire lives in our marriages, these mlcers did not. That's why it was so easy to walk away. When people don't invest a lot into something, it's far easy to toss it aside and not look back.
Just my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
