I do understand the need to complete the puzzle before putting it away. It took me a while to figure the pieces out, but once I did, the puzzle was put away up on a top shelf of my heart's closet.
As for the ring, I would venture to say that she may have purchased it herself. There's not guarantee that it's even a diamond...could be her birthstone, etc. I wouldn't give it another thought.
Many of them drag their heels when it comes divorce. My xh took exactly 3 and 1/2 years to get it done. When he saw that I wasn't pushing for it any longer, he then he filed. In some isntances, it is about the pressure of remarrying, but in others, it is the last string that binds them to us. Some really do not know what they want, but hold on for dear life until they are forced to do so because of money, etc.
They all tend to severe ties with family and friends. Why? They want a new life and do not want to be judged by those who know him/her. Also, they are afraid that old friends/family will spill the beans on their past life and don't want to be reminded of what once was. I suspect your h doesn't stay in touch because of this.
So, Seeking, box up the information you received and place it on the top shelf of your heart's closet. You are a very good person who does not deserve this heartache now. Take time to day to smile, relax and know that your party was a success and it's behind you.
Try to enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
