I agree that it's time to do something different. I have a year to figure out what I want that to look like. I will take what you both have said into careful consideration and combine that with my family's needs and wants. I think together we can come up with some new traditions that while different, will be fulfilling to everyone.
Snodderly, thank you for understanding my heart. When my guest told me about the ring she did say that it was tiny and looked like a desperate attempt at showing her claim on H.
You're also right that that type of ring isn't H's style. He's got excellent taste in jewelry and I would think that an engagement ring would be a bit more flashy than that.
I do wish my guest would not have brought the subject up at the party. I know she meant well. She has been hurt by H's rejection too. Not only cousins, but she and H were good friends, also. She doesn't understand the change in him...or how he could abandon the family that he once was so proud of and seem to mean the world to him.
H has left our life together behind. That includes friends and family. ow helps him do that by not giving H messages and even cards sent by anyone associated with his previous life. Many have just written H off.
You're right again in it has set me back a bit. I'm trying to bring myself out of a pity party while giving myself a little break remembering that H has only been gone a little over two years. Can't expect myself to be over it after a 28 year M that in many more ways than not, a very good M. At least from my perspective...
