I agree with snodderly and Bea. Live your life not your kid's life. If they are disappointed in the decorations, they will get over it, or not. That's up to them. Do what makes you happy and it sounds like doing all those things doesn't make you happy.

Your "friend" hurt you. You don't have to accept that. You get to set your boundaries. It's difficult, I know, I struggle with it.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss