Ok, we decided as a family, to create new traditions, and one new tradition is that Christmas will evolve . . . .
We have had a minimalist Christmas in which we decided to focus on the needs of others, small Christmases, big ones with others. Each one takes further along our new path, unhampered by traditions which only serve to bring us pain at what we no longer have, instead focusing on what is new, and where we want to be.
My Christmas has been much more God centred, and spiritual since my husband left.
Each year I mind less, and now I do not really mind at all. The wonder of it all grows in my heart.
We cannot re-create what we had, and it is probably wiser not to try, imo.
Also it is 180 which we do for us.
Next year think about taking a road trip or doing something totally different. Skip Christmas lunch and go for a long hike . . . . We all need to get out of stuckville, where our focus is on the crazy person!
