What do I do next? Part 3

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Glad I'm helping Luvhurts, in this medium its hard to tell when I'm missing the mark and just being annoying.

One distinction I'd like to point out. You say you could forgive W if she's willing to work on the marriage and would agree to some demands.

What I'm talking about is forgiving W *now* and without conditions attached. You're not going to do it for her, you're going to do it for you.

If you can forgive her now, regardless of her attitude, you will be much more likely to successfully pave the road back.

It will change how you interact with her without you having to think about it. For you, it will be.a great release. You'll feel better about yourself and will spend less time dwelling on the injustices committed against you.

You have to choose the path of forgiveness, it won't just happen. You may not be ready, things may be too hard right now. Just think about it. Think about what it might take for you to get there and set small goals.

Remember, she wasn't evil and malevolent, she was a person in pain who made some bad decisions and dug herself in deeper and deeper. It wasn't about you, it was about her. You didn't make her do this, she chose it. For that, she can be forgiven, because it came from a place of weakness and hurt.

Just give it some thought, it's a difficult but rewarding road to take.

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